Gates and Fences

I either usually know exactly what I want to say when I’m writing my posts, or the ideas start coming to me freely once I begin.

But today. Today is different. This post is different. It’s one of those things where growth is inevitable but the journey to get there is T-O-U-G-H. It is something I am experiencing right now.

We are going to take a peek at a necessary, yet not-so-pretty part of self-care: setting boundaries.

Boundaries are healthy for us. Boundaries show us we have respect for ourselves. When we set boundaries, we are showing ourselves some fierce LOVE. We are showing others how to treat us. We are showing US how to treat us.

Now, I know we all struggle with this idea from time to time (or quite often if you’re someone like me) because we are afraid of the consequences. We are afraid we will hurt others or isolate ourselves. But, it doesn’t have to be like that. When we set boundaries, we are simply saying “THIS is me, and this is NOT me.”

Today, don’t create your walls. Those keep others out. Create your gates and fences. They let you feel protected enough to enjoy the comfort of your own being. Others can still get in, they just have to stop and (possibly) ask permission first…and when I say permission, that comes in the form of respect.

Here’s your Day 21 toughie: